Low confidence seems to show up more often around low passion and low belief in the value of any given situation in which one is engaged. If you’re passionate – about your family, an opportunity, a person, a relationship, your health, a trip, etc. – your level of confidence naturally rises.
Nelson Mandela said, “There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
One could also say, “There is no self-confidence to be found in playing small.” Imagine being imprisoned, as Mandela was, for 27 years, but keeping the faith and confidence in your cause and ultimately prevailing.
Where in your life can you focus on your passions, your bliss, and explore the consequences of expanded confidence? Are you more confident about situations where you have a higher level of passion? For you, what is the correlation between passion and supreme self-confidence?
Henry Miller has always been among my favorites. Here, Miller discusses Supreme Self-Confidence.
“Every day, we slaughter our finest impulses. That is why we get a heart-ache when we read those lines written by the hand of a master and recognize them as our own, as the tender shoots which we stifled because we lacked the faith to believe in our own powers, our own criterion of truth and beauty.”
“Every (hu)man, when (s)he gets quiet, when (s)he becomes desperately honest with himself (herself), is capable of uttering profound truths. We all derive from the same source. There is no mystery about the origin of things. We are all part of creation, all kings, all poets, all musicians; we have only to open up, to discover what is already there.”
What is the song that you long to sing that you would sing . . . if only? If ONLY you had the Supreme Self Confidence to believe in Yourself?
Read the above Henry Miller quote OUT LOUD – and then try it a few times more OUT LOUD. Monitor the feelings in your gut. How does it feel to examine self-doubt and its opposite? Please let me know the results of your experiment.
The enemy of confidence is anxiety and fear. Notice how worry can begin in a small way, then slowly creep into your consciousness and grow. Worry erodes confidence.
Concerns about not enough money, time, love, imagination, accomplishment . . . all of these can mutate into disquieting feelings which have robbed us of joy.
It’s easier said than done, yet an excellent habit remains to replace the image of worry when it appears with an image of the result you desire. We know that that on which we place our attention expands, thus practicing the shifting of attention from worrisome images to satisfying images always pays quick dividends.
How have you typically handled worrisome and anxious images? Are there any strategies that have worked well for you over time?
From an amazing friend and reader about this week’s topic of Supreme Confidence:
“One of the best things that I have learned in this area is to be bold. It is remarkable how few people actually act on their ideas.”
“I’ve had lots of success going straight to the top and asking (professionally, articulately) for what I want. Apparently, the field is pretty wide open at the top, mostly because everyone else seems too intimidated to step up to the plate. LOL!”
“I also learned about a military man’s motto this weekend which fits this topic: His high-powered daughter reports that he always says, ‘Preparation equals victory.'”
Is that brilliant or what? Thanks, Tobey!!! WOW!
Who are among the most confident people you know? What do you think accounts for their high level of confidence? How do you see yourself in terms of confidence?
Confidence – and especially supreme confidence – is a magical topic. Confidence has a huge influence on all personal and professional results. An unknown author said, “The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.”
What if that’s the secret of having supreme confidence? Clearly, we’re not talking about jumping off of cliffs. But we are talking about what Joseph Campbell called “following our bliss,” and being willing to take risks for what and who we love.
How have you increased or decreased your level of self-confidence in your own life? What factors work for you? What have worked against you?